How to decide what you want
Who DOESN'T struggle with procrastination? If you have that area in your life solved, I applaud you. For everyone else, I feel you. But Seth's statement above was THE quote I needed to hear right now.
I took the Mindful Self-Compassion class to share its transformative tools both in in-person workshops and through this blog. The time has come where I need to format and translate the info in Greek and connect with people.
Instead, I found myself saying I need more time to read more books, watch more videos, take more online courses and so on, which truthfully was a way of putting off what I had intended to start.
The reason I was putting it off wasn't that I wasn't sure if it's what I wanted to do - it was because I hadn't decided, with a firm conviction that this is who I was going to be.
Seth's quote really propelled me to stop buying time.
I decided to be a guide to awakening consciousness and a compass to self-compassion.
There, I said it out loud. That is my official title.
Here are the 6 steps I took to move from needing more time, to have decided and acted on moving closer to fulfilling my desire:
1. Decide what you're going to create/be/do. Believe it.
That's really the most important step.
2. Does it align with my core values?
Yup! Here's a list of my values that perfectly fit in with my decision:
- Find your core values here-I suggest selecting no more than 5 to have a better idea of your priorities.
3. What are my fears?
My worst fears come from my inner critic. Here's what my inner critic sounds like:
No one will want to listen to what you have to say.
Who do you think you are for making such a bold decision?
You will fail, no one will be interested.
You won't make any money off of this to be able to sustain yourself.
After I gave my inner critic her chance to express herself, I thanked her for wanting to protect me from perceived failure and moved along to the next item. Like magic, she disappeared-for now ;)
- What are your fears? Write them out, it helps getting rid of them!
4. List action steps
I tend to want to do ALL the things right away, but I remind myself to list only the immediate action steps I need to take. For example:
Translate one chapter a week.
Create worksheets for each journaling prompt.